Victims Fight to Regain Control After Domestic Abuse

From By Astrid Martinez, August 12, 2013

Police reports we searched through at the Charlotte-Mecklenburg Police Department show types of abuse ranging from smashing personal property to violation of restraining orders to physical harm.

But what these reports don’t reveal are the courageous battles victims of domestic violence must fight to overcome what they have endured.

It takes a special kind of courage for Lady Tomika to share the story that changed her life.

“I was in human service field,” said Lady. “I worked with people all my life so I’m thinking oh I can help him through his, this should be easy.”

Four years ago, Lady realized thinking that way almost cost her life.

“He got really upset, flipped over the table. Hit me in the face, bit my cheek.”

Experts say domestic violence is still a major problem in our society.

“Every nine seconds in America a woman is either assaulted or beaten, so it’s a very serious situation,” said relation expert and author Charles Johnson.

Jacqueline Shields with the Women’s Commission in Charlotte says, “There’s physical abuse, there’s emotional abuse, there’s sexual abuse, there’s also intimidation.”

And those police reports we mentioned at CMPD show these incidents occurring more frequently.

The reports show victims being assaulted with a high chair, suspects smashing a glass table, victims with visible injuries.

But it’s a larger problem than what we see in those reports.

“There are so many times domestic violence goes unreported,” said Johnson. “So you need to tell the police.”

Advocates say victims should not stay in a dangerous situation.

“There are options out there, there’s help,” said Shields.

Lady said, “I used to help women and I didn’t think that would be something that would be my story.”

And while it took Lady some time to seek that help, counseling is what ultimately helped save her life.

“Every mess or every pain can be a message or a purpose for passion.”

If you or someone you know needs help with domestic violence, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE. Someone there will give you contact information for shelters and programs in your area.

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